Deceit

SOmeone once told me that there are 3 sides to every story. There's the side of both parties and then there is the truth. A little corney, I know, but definately something to think about.

But who decides the truth?

So it turns out that this guy I know - who is married and has a kid of 9 months is having an affair, with this girl I know. THe thing is I would never expect that of either of them. I can't judge the situation because I don't know the ins and outs but I do know that knowledge of this made me want to throw up. I felt sick. It was bad news. I know it was bad news because I have never felt sick on hearing about someone elses dealings. I try not to know/get involved because it is none of my business. But, my god. I feel sad. I feel confused and upset and it's not even me who is involved?

What makes one person in a relationship decide to sour it with that type of decision? IS marriage not meant to be a promise? And by promise I mean a deal that both people will FIGHT till the end. UNTIL THE END. FIGHT. TRY HARDER. Especially with a kid involved? I totally get that relationships do break down. THings don't stay the same, people change, people move on, stuff gets DULL....But surely it's WORTH it to stick it out TO THE END, having given it everything not given up AND THEN move onto someone else without creating a love triangle of confusion.

I cannot pin down why this has upset me so.
It could be because I feel I am no longer a good judge of character? I am dissapointed? I feel let down by human nature and how we can't fight for what we onced believed in?

I don't know either side of the story.
I don't even know the truth anymore. Who decides on what the truth is anyway?
I cannot judge.
I just know that I feel sad.